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No funeral for the death of a spouse alive

In my dream, he was the person I knew. He was independent with a fully functioning "normal" man's body. He was vibrant and full of life with a light and energy about him. He had come home from work to surprise me, as it was common for him to find reasons to surprise me, and there was joy between us and a sense of loving romance that felt safe. I woke up to my alarm and realized he was gone. The reality of his present condition came back to memory, and as deep sadness replaced my previous joy, I had this thought, "We never got to have a funeral for losing the man we knew and loved. No one ever had the chance to grasp the painful reality we have faced and to be alongside us to grieve with us and comfort us on the life after his accident. They just started to fade away back into their lives." I wonder do they even know how hard this has been behind closed doors? Have they chosen to abandon us because they don't know, or because they know but don't k...